im not parenting!

RRRRRrrrrrggghhhhh!!! J.N. is often snotty to J.S. and M.S., and as a last resort they usually ask me to tell her to stop. of course she stops immediately. so i assumed that they were silently wanting me to ask her to be quiet sooner. my mistake i geuss. i tried telling her to stop before my help was acquired during one particularly ugly battle, and got to told to stop parenting! i wasnt even saying anything to J.S. or M.S., and they got mad at me for parenting journey! i was trying to save her some pain. she doesnt know that every word you say to macy (even just around her) makes her hate you more. aaahhhggg!